Wilnona and Jade: You’re getting fat so I’m leaving

November 11, 2019

I came home from work and my husband was playing video games.

He went into the bedroom and came out with a suitcase. He said, “You’re getting fat so I’m leaving” and he walked out the door. I had gone from a size 4 to a size 8.

45-minutes later I had a new roommate. Jade moved in 45-minuted later. 15 -minutes after that a guy I had been interested in 7-years before I had met my ex-husband called and asked to go bowling on Saturday.

I guess you could say I went to hang out with someone new an hour later.

I want to say I was crying and I was sad, I ran around my living room and did leaps and jumps. I danced and played party music until Jade arrived because I was just so happy.

I was so happy, I couldn’t express it.

I cried when I looked at my bank account. He had taken all the money. I had $200 to my name and over $2200 worth of bills to pay every month.

We made it through on rice, a hope and a prayer…and popcorn. There was a lot of popcorn dinners. Oatmeal goes a long way.

It was not a happy ending for me. The guy did propose but we did not go down the aisle. He did go down the aisle with someone else. I had been in love with him for years.

He married someone else and didn’t tell me. His best friend called us.

Our friend is a stylist and I had my hair and makeup and done and my dress so I couldn’t even cry. I’ll mess up my makeup. We drove home the next day and then I cried.

I lost so much weight. I looked great. I don’t eat and I become obsessed with exercise.

I first learned I was stronger.  I’m much stronger.

I started writing again and that helped.

I still think I’m a complete and total mess.

She’s like my hero..she’s my shero! She just kept getting up.

She taught me no matter how bad it is, just keep getting up and call your friend.

Just be there for your friend. Just be there. They might not want to talk about it. Sit there and be a friend. Say nothing if that’s what it calls for.

Just got to keep showing up. Sometimes we don’t know what to say.

If you don’t get it out you’re not going to move on so get it out.

When you get up in the morning deal with that hour. Don’t try to take on anything more than that. Don’t get overwhelmed. Find a ride or die friend.

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