I was 30-years old and two children and my husband got sick.
My daughter was a newborn of 3-months and my son was 3-years.
I was working full-time because I had to pay my bills. We found out he was ill when he applied for life insurance so we had no life insurance.
During that time my mom was killed by a drunk driver so I only had my dad but we lived in different places so I pretty much had to do this alone.
I couldn’t tell his family. He didn’t want them to know he was ill.
You do what you’ve got to do for those two little kids and you’ve got to get up in the morning and do it for them.
I think work helped me every day. I think we get strength from going to work every day. It makes us feel better about ourselves.
I had to go on. It wasn’t a choice. You throw your head under the pillow and never get out of bed or you just pick yourself up and go on.
I had to go make money for my family. My friends were phenomenal. It was hard financially but you do what you gotta do.
My friends wanted me to meet somebody but I wasn’t ready right away. A couple of years down the road I realized I’ve got to meet somebody for these children. I don’t think it was for me. I think it was to bring up my kids.
I’m remarried now for 23 years.
Friends of mine put an ad out. I didn’t know. I met a lot of older guys I wasn’t interested in.
It’s difficult when you have two children. I joined a tennis league. It was getting out.
The best thing that happened to me was meeting someone and we were able to get out and do things together.
People were scared of me at that time…that I would take their husbands away. I didn’t want their dirty laundry!
I’m going to meet somebody really good and somebody who cares about my kids and about me. I wasn’t going to just meet anybody.
I do believe sometimes when you get married so young you’re not with the right person. I believe it was really good for me because I started all over again. Luckily I met the right one. It was really hard in the beginning.
I’m very independent. Be independent. Do it on your own.
It’s really important to figure out who you want. You don’t just jump into a relationship. I think being so young I was very particular who I met and I was very lucky I met the right one.
I don’t believe everyone should get married again.
You may not want to share your finances right away until you really get to know them.
I needed a new life. We got transferred to Singapore. It was the best thing for all of us because we had each other and that’s it.
It’s been a journey in my life. I don’t know that I would have had that life with my first husband. It’s been a great adventure. I made it the best I know how.
I put my own business together because I want women to know they are strong.
I think men have a harder time than women. It’s harder for them taking care of daughters. They need their mother.
You just got to go on. You only have one life to lead. I wasn’t going to give up. It was really difficult. I’m not going to say it was easy. My friends, that’s who really put me through it. Not my family, my friends.
You can be strong and you can learn to deal with other people. I taught them you’ve got to go on. You’ve got to be individuals and go on.
I did sometimes feel guilty. I couldn’t be there for my kids all the time. I was not home with my kids. I had to work. It is important for kids to see their mother and father have a purpose.
You just do the best you can. To stay alone…not the answer.
Be strong and be powerful in yourself. You’ve got to be strong. I’m very strong.
No matter what you’re going to make it. You have no choice. Get out of bed every morning.