He started behaving strangely. I only found out after we split up it was opioid addiction. I had no idea at the time what it looked like. I’ve learned a lot about it since then.
The reason he got the opioid addiction was because of a back injury. He needed to get on the drugs to help with the pain.
I just couldn’t trust him with our daughter anymore. He just basically didn’t come home one day.
Looking back this was actually the best thing that happened for several reasons. He almost died because of an overdose and when he woke up he realized he didn’t want his daughter to grow up without a dad. He’s completely turned around.
It was kind of a blessing in disguise.
Even though we’re not together and we’re not planning on getting back together his life has changed and our daughter actually has a dad. So I’m grateful for that.
I always try to look for the positive. There was a reason for that happening. I’m encouraged by the fact that our daughter has a dad who is contributing and helping out and spending time with her and is healthy again.
I had lost my dad also a year and a half before we split up. It was very sudden. He had a heart attack and it was completely unexpected. It felt like one thing after the next that was kind of hitting me. That first six months to a year was extremely emotionally draining for me because I had just recovered from losing my father.
I don’t even know how I survived. Prayer and I remember going into my closet and literally crying because I didn’t want my daughter to see me cry. One fear I had was somehow this was going to break her.
I actually lost my job. It turned out again to be another good thing that happened because I ended up spending four months with my daughter.
Wherever we put our mind to we can achieve. The People I am around now are so much more encouraging and so much more positive.
I remember going to work and thinking, there’s got to be more to life than this. More to life than going to a cubicle every day and coming back and making a good paycheck to support your family.
I really feel like all these challenges and all these things happened for a reason. It sounds like a cliche. Our struggles only make us stronger and that’s how we’re able to help other people. Everything I’ve been through I’m not able to impact other people’s lives because I have been there.
Trust your gut.
I was really the first person in my family to get divorced. You have to be true to yourself. You have to listen to your inner voice. You have to trust it.
Even if it’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done. You have to let them go. You can’t change somebody else. We can only control what we can do. Let them go and let them figure it out. Love them but love them from a distance.
Take care of yourself and take care of your children. They are your priority. The person who is lost has to realize they are lost.