When you go through a bad divorce you always think the worst, but life turns around and happiness can be found by anyone who wants it.
I was married for 20-year and prior to when I was married I had a collection as many of us do. Mine happened to be the passion for dolls, specifically Barbie Dolls. I had them displayed in the home.
Babies came along and I needed that room for my daughters. I needed space and I had no place to put my doll collection. I did the worst thing. I packed it up and I stored it in my garage.
As time went along and the marriage started to fail I began thinking of my future and what I was going to do with this collection. It started weighing heavily on my mind.
I don’t know what happened, but sometime between the time that I picked up 1-2 loads I went back, and the garage was completely empty, and my collection was gone. It was quite shocking because I didn’t expect that.
It’s bringing up those feelings of how could this happen? Why would someone be so cruel? Someone that I was with and loved and had children with and they knew how important these things were to me…what happened?
It was very hurtful. I was sad. I got very angry. It was horrible. When I say I was angry, I also wanted to get revenge. He had a collection himself. I could have very easily taken from that collection. I wanted revenge, but I didn’t ever take it.
I’d had enough of the anger, I’d had enough of the hate, I’d had enough of the arguing. I just let it be.
Still, I feel it now…how could this happen? It was so hurtful.
After you go through these periods almost like grieving…it sounds ridiculous to say that…grieving over material things. I got to this point of, as long as I have my girls and I have the things that they want then I’m going to be okay.
You get to a point where you can’t live in anger and if you want to have a good future you have to start changing your mind.
I don’t want to live an angry life. I wanted to forgive him for it.
I wanted to live a life of clarity and focus.
For a while there I thought the world was coming to an end because my barbies were gone.
I’ve come to the conclusion that we don’t need a lot of things. It’s all about where your focus is.
Things matter, but there are so many other ways to make memories.
Protect yourself. Make sure those agreements are in writing. Look and focus on enjoying life with your loved ones. Spend more time with your family Enjoy adventures. Protect yourself and enjoy life without having a bunch of stuff stacked up all around you.